It’s that time of year again when we all start thinking about our New Year’s resolutions. I like that the end of a year is a type of marker where we can look back and evaluate the year that was…the things we did well and the things we need to do better. It gives us the opportunity to correct our path, change course if we need to or pat ourselves on the back for achieving our goals. Without a vision for the next twelve months, we can just drift through life, never quite becoming the people we want to be.
In saying all that, I’m not a fan of the ‘NYR’ (New Year’s Resolution). I love new beginnings, fresh starts and turning over a new leaf, but NYR’s tend to be unrealistic, usually made in the heat of the moment or they are drunken, sweeping declarations that just set you up to fail. We tend to become a little melodramatic and see the new year as “The Year” that we are finally going to lose weight, find the perfect job, write that novel or become the next big thing. The pressure to achieve everything we’ve failed to achieve in years gone by is just too much we give up, telling ourselves that we will achieve it all next year.
As I look back over 2013 and toward 2014, I know I need to make some changes in my life, and that’s a good thing. But instead of the grandiose pronouncement of a New Year’s Resolution, I’m going to do something a little different – a 2014 Bucket List.
We all know that a Bucket List is a list of things we want to do before we ‘kick the bucket’, so a 2014 Bucket List is a list of things I would like to achieve before 2014 kicks the bucket…get it? Why is this better than a NYR? Well, with an NYR usually by the time February 1 rolls around, those NYR’s have bitten the dust and you are left with a feeling of failure BUT with a bucket list, I have the whole year to tick off the things on my list, instead of trying to cram it all into January. Simple!
Now I love lists, but more than that I LOVE crossing things OFF a list. At work we write up lists every day of the jobs that need to get done. There is a feeling of accomplishment that comes when you cross off a job from that list and woe betide anyone who crosses off one of the jobs that I have completed before I do!
To keep the bucket list relevant and achievable there have to be some rules…
- Be Specific – No general sweeping announcements
- Be Realistic – If you say you are going to save $1M dollars this year but only have $5 in your bank account and no job then that is a little unrealistic
- Be True to Yourself – Don’t try and be someone else or achieve other people’s dreams
- Be Accountable – Write your list down and stick it somewhere that you will see it every day and tick it off as you go!
- Have Fun with it – make sure there are some fun things on your list
- Don’t Overburden Yourself – Don’t make your list the equivalent of War & Peace, less than 6 is too few and more than 12 is too many
Now you have the rules, take some quiet time to sit down and really think about what you would like to achieve, see, do, go, taste, hear and enjoy over the next twelve months. Write it down and then blog, facebook, tweet and Instagram it!
My 2014 Bucket List
- Blog More – My current blogging is a bit hit and miss, so for 2014 I want to make a commitment to blog at least once a month every month!
- Dinner Parties – Last year, due to work and other lame excuses, I didn’t get to spend as much time with friends as I would have liked, so this year I would like to have more dinner parties with friends
- Lose 10 kilos – I will never be thin and I can’t ever imagine myself reaching my goal weight, but I have decided that I don’t need to be thin to be happy. If I can lose 10 kilograms, I will improve my health, have more clothing options and feel better about myself.
- Go on a Overseas Holiday – We are not quite sure where we want to go yet…either another cruise or maybe a trip to the UK
- Date Night – My husband and I work together, so we see each other quite a lot, but in doing so we tend to take each other for granted. By setting aside a date night once a month, we get to spend time together that isn’t work related and we can keep our relationship healthy
- Be Creative – I love to paint, draw and design, but haven’t made the time to do so recently. My goal is to set aside some ‘mental health’ time and get my creative on!
- Go Snorkelling – I snorkelled for the first time in February 2013 and I loved it! My husband bought me a snorkel mask with a camera on it in April and I haven’t even taken it out of the box L So in 2014 I want to take it out for a spin
- Write 50,000 words – I have so many half written manuscripts lying around it is ridiculous! This year I want to write at least 50,000 words for one of these novels…who knows, I may even finish one!
- See Snow – I am 40 years old and have never seen snow…unbelievable I know, but true. This is the year I am going to change that!
- Eat at a Famous Chefs Restaurant – There is a list of restaurants that I would like to eat at…Aria, The Boathouse, Fenix, Jimmy Grants, MamaBaba…
- Organise my Kitchen – Ok, so this one sounds a little easy, but believe me it’s not! I have so many baking pans, cake pans, muffin pans it is ridiculous and my pantry is so choc-full that I don’t even know what’s in it!
- Write a Recipe Book – I have a lot of recipes in my head and I really need to get them down on paper (or electronic media)
Here is a little something to help you get motivated! It is an A3 size printable poster for you to write down your bucket list with a place to paste a photo when you have completed it!